At some point in time, all women hook up with a player. Whether they continue doing it or learn their lesson from one encounter depends on their personality type and how gullible they are overall. You just never know when those guys will turn up in your life, and it’s hard to always spot them.
These men are very charming from the beginning. They flatter you and make you feel as if you’re the most beautiful woman in the world. It’s hard to tell that this man will lead you on, make you fall in love with him, make you believe he loves you and then break your heart.
All it usually takes is one go round with a player to make you start to re-think your position on nice guys. Nothing can make those good guys seem more attractive than being messed up by a player. Once you swear off of players for good, the only thing you need to do is figure out how you will ever be attracted to those nice guys. When you make the decision, it may not be as difficult as you think.
The first thing you need to do is give these guys a true chance. Even though he may be bald or balding, getting a pot belly, nerdy, or in other ways not totally attractive, try to move past that. Actually, you want to date someone that isn’t exactly your type, especially if dating your type hasn’t exactly got you where you want to go.
You may not be totally blown away by the guy on the first date, but try to stay open about future possibilities. He may show you a completely different side of you that allows you to form a connection with him. After all, chemistry can happen on the turn of a dime.
If you meet a nice guy that you’re not totally impressed with but, say he has a good job, is clean and is presentable, give him a chance. Start unwrapping him like a present. Take off each layer of paper until you get to the main present. Get to know each layer of this man before moving on to the next one. If he likes you and is willing to grow, there’s even more reason to give him a chance.
Go places with this man that are exciting and novel instead of tired and boring. You want to get your adrenaline going. Try a roller coaster ride at an amusement park. Go rock climbing or take a ride in a helicopter. There are so many things that you can do to associate excitement with this nice guy. Go on dates that put him in HIS element. This gives you a chance to see other sides of him.
Do things to turn yourself on. Wear a hot dress with sexy lingerie under it. Get flirty with him and touch him often. This invites him to get flirty and sensual with you and see where that chemistry can start.
You never know when you may suddenly feel that spark with someone even though he’s not what you normally like.