Sometimes single people can be in the dating scene for so long that it starts to take a toll on their enthusiasm as well as their belief that there really is someone out there for everyone. There are ways that you can stay positive about the dating experience, though. If you try to keep up your spirits, you won’t get discouraged and you’ll strengthen your chances of finding the one meant for you.
To begin with, you can afford to be picky about who you date. Nothing makes dating more tiresome than going out with people that you already know you’re probably not going to like. While having an open mind is always good, lowering your standards isn’t really advised. The exception to this is if your standards are so impossibly high that Venus and Eros themselves couldn’t reach them.
Have a life that’s outside of your dating one. Spend time with your friends and family. Do things that you find enjoyable such as hobbies and other activities. It’s not a great idea to let dating take up all of your spare time. You’ll get bored in a hurry.
Try to date outside of what your “type” normally is. While this may seem that you’re going against not being picky, it’s really an altogether different action. Don’t lower your standards, just widen them a bit.
Try going out with someone that you would never have considered dating. If you usually go for older, try younger, or if you tend to gravitate toward brainy, try someone that reads bestsellers rather than textbooks. You just never know what will happen.
Change out your dating habits. While you may have one way to meet your dates that is convenient and easy, it can get boring pretty fast. It’s exciting to discover new restaurants, bars, or cafes together with the new people you’re trying out on dates.
Dating can give you a great excuse to treat yourself to something nice. It can be fun getting a new hairstyle, manicure, outfit, shoes, or scent. Make it a very special occasion and you’ll be excited to get all dressed up for it.
Keep in mind the reasons you’re dating. Continue to remind yourself on a regular basis that a great relationship is much nicer than dealing with the constant stress and/or humiliation of bad dates. You can afford to take your time and not race through a string of dates.
Take a vacation from dating if you find yourself dreading the next time you get ready for a date. Set a time limit on this vacation as in when it will start and when it will end. Use a timeframe that you feel comfortable with. Some people need a month off while others need more time or less time.
Once you make up your mind the specifics of the dating vacation, stick to them. When you come off of it, you’ll feel refreshed and ready to take on the dating world once again.