When a relationship first begins, there are many things that couples need to learn about each other. It’s usually not great to guess at what the other one wants. Therefore, to avoid this recipe for possible disaster, there are some basic guidelines that you can follow while setting up some rules with the new person you’re dating. This helps you move past all of the small things that can ruin a good beginning so you can really start having fun.
- You need to find out quickly where the comfort zone is for public affection. Some people don’t mind holding hands and semi cuddling, or even kissing in public areas. Other people find it embarrassing and are appalled at the very idea of touching one another where other people might see it. This needs to be the first rule that is set forth.
- Set up one day each week where it’s only the two of you doing something together. No other friends or family members are invited to tag along. Alone time can be very good for the growth of a relationship and you need to make sure your new budding relationship gets that chance.
- Don’t suffocate each other or you’ll put out more than one fire. Togetherness is great and necessary but each of you had a separate life before you met. Those separate lives need to continue breathing as they define who and what each of you are.
- Avoid discussing the future too soon. In the beginning, you don’t even know if there WILL be a future together. Give it time and let things take their natural course. If it starts to look as if things are moving in a certain, more serious, direction, it may be the time to bring up what the future may hold. But don’t rush things or you’ll kill it before it has a chance.
- Get to know your new love’s friends. You don’t have to be their new best friend, but it’s nice if everyone can get along and be around each other comfortably in a social setting.
- Don’t neglect your own friends. Remember, these people were your friends before this new person came into your life, and it’s rude to suddenly start neglecting them in favor of the new love. Besides, if this new relationship goes south, you’re going to want these friends to lean on.
- Don’t hide anything from your new partner. While there are certain things that don’t need to be shared, you shouldn’t avoid saying that you’re still friends with your ex before you’re seen lunching together.
- Keep things light. Guys look at beautiful women and women tend to love looking at men that look good in leather pants. It’s all a part of life. It doesn’t mean that either of you would go rushing off with the ones you’re looking at. It just means you appreciate beauty.
- What goes on in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom. Your friends and acquaintances don’t need all the details.
- Say what you mean and what you feel. It’s the best way to keep things balanced.